Maybe a little TMI….

December 2, 2008 § 3 Comments

The kids are fine.  Well, as fine as you can be when you wake up caked in snot….. poor little Melissa.  And let me just tell you how much they love having their noses wiped or sucked out.  They have both mastered the art of the “gator roll” and will try to roll away from any tissue or aspirator.  They are both so stinkin’ strong.  I suppose that is great considering they were so little and premature.  But what the heck am I going to do when they have a tantrum when they are two or three years old.  They are a real handful now….I think I am going to be in trouble.


I must be the world’s worst mother….my babies ate stove top stuffing for supper last night.  They love it.  They fed themselves.  Not really the healthiest meal in the world……..

And for other news:

Both my hubby and my mother have been asking me what they can get me for Christmas.  I had a couple ideas…..

1) a new pair of cowboy boots (square toe).  I had a real nice pair a few years ago, but Sasha decided that they were tasty and ate one of them when she was a puppy.

2) A phillies Hoody sweatshirt or jersey or tickets for a game next season.

3) A gym membership to a place close to the house that has childcare for $10 per kid per month.  I want something for me.  Something that will constructively get me out of the house to do something other than grocery shopping.

Believe it or not, the 3rd one caused yet another fight with the hubby.  You would think that he would want me to be in shape.  You would think that he would want me to be able to work off some of my stress doing something other than sucking down alcoholic beverages.  No, he thinks I want to do it so I can “flirt” and be a “social butterfly” and sleep with the first guy that tells me that I am pretty.  I give up.I told him that I didn’t want a husband who was a warden.  He says he can’t trust me but yet has given me no opportunity to prove my trustworthiness.  He tells me that I am allowed to go out with my friends anytime I want.  The problem with that is all of my friends are at the firehouse and I am not ALLOWED to go near the firehouse.  So, yeah, it is kind of hard to get together with friends.  It is a double edged sword and frankly, I am so done with fighting over the same crap over and over and over (and I am sure you are tired of hearing about it).  There was more (very mature) name calling and yelling and at one point I told him to get a divorce attorney because if this is how the rest of my life is going to be, I don’t want it.  I went to bed.  He came up and was all teary eyed and (3 drinks in) because I didn’t just agree with what he was saying, I was a cold-hearted b*tch.  So, I went to sleep.  He was up a bunch of times in the night and I really didn’t care.  If he falls asleep at work, that is his problem.  The kids were only up once in the night.  They started talking to each other at 4 am but we just let them go.

So, another joy of pure joy here at my house.  More laundry, more dishes, more of the same, every day, the monotony………..


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§ 3 Responses to Maybe a little TMI….

  • stephanie says:

    Im so sorry to hear about these tough times you and the hubby are going through. Being married is hard sometimes, that’s for sure! We have all been there and I pray that you guys make it through to the other side. Have you guys gone to talk to someone? Sorry I can’t remember if you talked about that before. My husband would never go and say he knew what he needed to do to meet my needs. He would do what I needed for a time, then revert back into old habits. If your hubby is willing to go talk to someone I would take him up on it. I think it is really helpful. If only you go, it might still help you get through this time and learn some new ways to deal with him.

    I sure hope it gets better. Oh and by the way…we all have monotony in our lives. Anyone with babies does the same thing day in and day out. I was just laughing with a friend about that exact thing. I hope that today brings you some good excitement to make you smile!

  • pillarr1 says:

    If you can’t get a gym membership for Christmas then do it for yourself. Do not let anyone tell you what to do and how to live your life because of their insecurities. You will look back and regret it. You would not want anyone to treat Melissa this way when she grows so don’t you allow it now. Oh, and you should give him the silent treatment when it comes to arguments. Let him go on and on and just don’t say anything. Nothing productive comes from arguments – that is why my husband and I don’t argue. We may have one or two sentences to say to each other but that it is. We only say what needs to be said.

    But I am a quiet non confrontational person. If it is not related to my health, basic needs (food, water, shelter, sleep), money, or my child, then I do not want to hear it unless it is something positive.

    Just my thoughts.

  • Helene says:

    Oh definitely go for the gym membership, even if no one gets the gift of membership for you….do it for yourself! It’ll be so good for you! Not just the working out part, obviously, but it’s such a great stress reliever and a nice break from the kiddos. Plus that’s the only way I get to watch my daily fix of Oprah. I specifically go to the gym at 4:00, drop the kids off at the daycare in the gym, pop in my earplugs and watch the tv while I work out!!

    It sounds like this issue your husband has with trust is HIS issue, not yours. But he seems like he’s trying to make you take responsibility for his insecurities. As if you don’t have enough on your plate with raising twins?? I hope he starts to realize that his insecurities and lack of trust is only pushing you away further, not making things better.

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