November 1, 2010 § 1 Comment
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October 27, 2010 § 2 Comments
Happy blogoversary to me…..I didn’t really celebrate it the way I should have, but I have a darn good excuse. But HAPPY 5 YEARS! Now, on to the 6th year and more ranting…..
Yesterday was the boy’s “evaluation” at the Intermediate Unit. By “evaluation” (and specifically by their CRACK POT child psychologist), I mean 7 minutes of nattering at the boy…calling him Dan, Danny, etc….(which are names ODDLY he has never heard or even would respond to BECAUSE IT IS NOT HIS NAME!). Ummm…..DUH!
Do I sound angry? Do I seem peeved? Maybe a little…..
And from all of the nattering, the CRACK POT was able to make a tentative diagnosis……yeah, my shiny white butt……..That would be like a mechanic being able to tell you what is wrong with your car engine by listening to it from the middle of a heavy metal concert, over an old cell phone…..just not gonna happen…..AND I WILL NOT HAVE MY SON LABELED BY AN INCOMPETENT COUNTY PAID SIMPLETON! Which was pretty much what the CRACK POT was. No, no….that is what Medical Doctor’s specializing in developmental pediatrics are for…… Hello…..anyone heard of Children’s Hospital Of Philadelphia? Ummm, yeah….they are kind of the experts? I mean, this lady was at least in her late 50′s, with very scary eyeliner (not that appearance counts that much) but if I was 3 and saw that….yeah, I would freak out too!
The boy was quite upset, despite DH being there. He was screaming, and biting his hands and was generally not interested in interacting with the evaluators (initially). Then again, I was not terribly interested in doing much but reaching across the table to slap the CRACK POT. Hey, Montgomery County, PA …..thanks for putting your “best” people at the Intermediate Unit. You know which ones I am talking about….they are terse, and brash, and frankly have not rapport with 3 year old kids. I really appreciate that our taxes are paying this dingbat’s salary!
Needless to say, it was a frustrating couple of hours. The speech pathologist was really nice, and we shared some commonalities with our fertility, or lack there of, journey, and she seemed genuinely on board to want to help the boy out. The Occupational Therapist, well, did you ever watch Yan Can Cook? Yeah, he was Yan. Very nice, just a tad difficult to understand. I really wanted to ask him where he gets HIS Chinese food! I know, so wrong! While we were discussing the boy’s proprioceptive issues, he told me that I sounded like “a therapist”! Ewwwwwww! Anything but that! Geez, was I not supposed to research and educate myself about my kid’s needs? I mean, sorry to disappoint you by not being a good little lemming and just taking what you give me rather than what the boy is entitled to and deserves. This little gray duck will not tow the party line, Comrade!
So…in essence…yesterday is not one I ever want to live through again. I am beyond frustrated. I am beyond angry and beyond exhaustion. The boy will get help. He will get better. He had already shown us, over the past three months that he can be better. He CAN speak. He CAN control his behavior. We just have to find the motivating factor that works in that situation.
We are going to get through this.
October 25, 2010 § 1 Comment
So I am on my 10th day of this cold, or bronchitis, or walking pnuemonia or whatever it is….I am running a fever, coughing my head off, wheezing, and have a splitting headache……someone just kill me now. I took to boy for his 3 year check up and flu shot this morning and he was an absolute monster….which really helped my headache…(insert heavy sarcasm) and they both decided, after spending their first night in their toddler beds, to pull a nap strike and not take a nap today. How lucky am I? Oh, AND, tomorrow is the boy’s evaluation at the Intermediate Unit. It should be a real treat….you know, like root canal, or bamboo shoots under the fingernails.
I have been kicked, punched, slapped AND bitten today. Funny how the boy actually can pull it together and behave for everyone BUT me. Frustration, thy name is motherhood!!!!
As I write this, he just pulled the charging video camera on to the ceramic tile floor and probably broke it. He is screaming and throwing and knocking everything over. Really, some days….I just wonder how long I can do this. This is not what I had in mind for my mothering experience. I am exhausted, fully spent, and want to do nothing but sleep until…well, things get easier. And I know that I can’t. I just wonder how these kids can pick the worst time to lose it…..I mean full on MELTDOWNS!!!
And tomorrow marks my 5th blogoversary. I cannot believe that 5 years ago, i just started tinkering around, not knowing that I would face infertility, IVF, prematurity, multiples, depression, and now global delays. It is overwhelming. And I know that this post (or rant as the case may be) won’t be my last. But I can hardly find the time to shower let alone blog these days. So bear with me…..
October 23, 2010 § Leave a Comment
if blogging were a library, I would be in BIG trouble.
Life has been crazy.
Crazier that I ever thought it could be.
My babies are 3 now…..
And the realization that I have spent the better part of the last 3 years, unshowered, in my pajamas, covered in some kind of body fluids that have escaped my children’s bodies.
Where has the time gone?
Oh….and I started blogging….get this…..5 YEARS ago….you think I would be better at it by now.
I was even so foolish to think that I could keep a written journal…..yeah….right….because the boy child NEVER crawls ALL OVER ME……. and I have SO MUCH free time….please note the very heavy dose of SARCASM…..
But I am trying….
Failing, but trying……
and I will continue to try.
October 22, 2010 § Leave a Comment
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August 28, 2010 § 2 Comments
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Just taking a quick moment, whilst the coffee is brewing to say hello. I know that I am posting far too infrequently, but it is not without cause. Little D’s therapy has taken most of my attention. Well, that and the fact that hubby has been putting in 12+ hours, 6 days a week. I am feeling kind of like a single mom (and resenting it) and have been just plain exhausted. Oh….and I am back on my meds……going off was a BAD….BAAAAAAD idea.
But! Mind over matter people! The summer is coming to a close, which I personally do not mind….summer is always a bad hair time for me, especially after 7 (yes!) heat waves here in the Philly suburbs. Oh wait…we are getting yet another one this week! Yea! (Note sarcasm!) It is nice and cool here and night and early in the morning, which is quickly becoming my favorite time of day, and my mother will tell you, I was NOT a morning person growing up. But now, I just don’t seem to mind so much. The house is quiet, the coffee is good (either Tim Horton‘s or and organic Kona from Hawaii that my cousin Coop sent me) and I feel like I can get a handle on the day.
I already have a load of laundry going and it is not 8 am yet. Of course, I do have a dishwasher full of clean dishes that I should be putting away but…I owe the blog……
The kids are growing and changing. M is into her “tea party” stage (and no it has nothing to do with the political beliefs of her parents). “Mommy, want some tea? Mommy, don’t forget your sugar!” D is picking up 3 or 4 new words every week, and that makes me so proud!!! My cousin, R, who lives a few miles away was kind enough to give us a little tykes play set. Dad and I went over and disassembled it and got it home. Then it rained for two days…go figure. We finally put it together, somehow managing to not step on the kids as they were underfoot and wanting to play with it IMMEDIATELY. They love it and I am so thankful to my cousin, since a $400 backyard toy would have NEVER been seen in our backyard.
D’s therapy is going well. He loves Monica, his special services teacher. She is here twice a week. And he loves Jo, his occupational therapist, who is here once a week. She always brings new toys for him to play with. Who would have thought that D would love to poke dried ziti noodles through a hole in a plastic glad bowl!!! And then we have Joan. We have only met Joan once. She is his speech therapist. I like her, she is mater-of-factually straight to the point….kind of like (ahem…) me. She is here once a week. We have now set up our schedules so that there are 2 therapy days, Monday and Thursday….rather than therapy 4 days a week, we double up. That way I don’t feel like I am trapped in my home (and I know that feeling all too well).
We also went for an interview with the Montgomery County Intermediate Unit. And I am not really complaining. I just wish someone would have told me that D and the hubby did not have to be there. Hubby took a half day of work during one of the craziest times of the year to come to this appointment and all it consisted of was asking me questions that could have been asked over the phone. I know the system is not perfect by any stretch of the imagination but…come on!!! So we go back 10/26 for his 4 evaluations that they think they are going to get done in 90 minutes….(and God laughed!!!!)
But I am alive and kicking and will blog when I can…..
One question? Anyone out there have any experience with compression vests for behavior modification? I only ask because the one time we put it on D, he calmed right down……not sure if it is a worth while investment.
Peace in your village….
August 21, 2010 § 1 Comment
So it wasn’t bad enough that the twinkies came down with a case of the crankies and runny noses, but they also decided on a full on nap strike, complete with the “we are getting up in the middle of the night for no good reason” routine. We had to postpone D’s first speech therapy session and one of his special instruction sessions.
Our lovely water company announces that they will be shutting off the water between 7 pm and 3 am to work on the water main. So, I hurry to get a shower only to have the hubby run upstairs to tell me to hurry because there was a fire at his plant (he works in a Hazardous Materials processing facility) and that he had to go back to work. This is on top of the fact that he has been working 12+ hours a day covering for one of his guys on vacation.
While in the basement, changing loads of the never ending laundry, I hear a dripping sound. Upon further investigation, I see out water heater leaking from the top. So, I shut off all the water to the house AGAIN! Hubby comes home, turns just the hot water off so at least we can flush the toilets and brush our teeth. I proceed to order a new hot water heater from Sears.com (which I have NEVER had a positive experience with…..ever…..something ALWAYS get screwed up….I don’t know how they are still in business) and pay almost $400 extra for the installation that was to happen yesterday. So after 4 or 5 calls to Sears, a plumbing contractor shows up at 4 pm and informs me that we have several things out of code and it is going to cost another $200 to fix before he can even install the water heater……so now we are at $1100…..
we have hot water again.
Oh, and on Wednesday, we went to the Montgomery County Intermediate Unit for D’s planning meeting. I wish someone would have told me that D did not have to be there and that the hubby really didn’t need to be there and this was just a meeting to set up D’s evaluation in OCTOBER! Yeah. Not such a happy Mommy. He turns 3 on October 16th and the evaluation is the 26th of October….then it will take them a few weeks to determine his specific therapies. This is going to be a frigging circus….I can tell already. Oh and of course, they put a big push on signing up for Medical Assistance (No thank you!). I have heard HORROR stories about being on Medical Assistance and then not being able to see the doctors you really need to see, because they have opted out of providing care for MA…….due to the crappy reimbursement they would receive.
And I had a crazy headache for 6 days in a row…..due to my TMJ. So in the midst of all of this, I drove and hour to my dentist’s office where he made me a new appliance so I won’t grind my teeth at night…..(yeah….no stress here!)
So far…this month has pretty much sucked.
Except for when M told me she loved me over the phone.